Single Motherhood can be HELL!!!!

Let me start by saying I love being a mom more than anything else in the world and I love being a single mom at that because I don't have a man bothering me for my time I get to be all about my son and I love it. Its me and Daylan against the world!!! But what is the HELL part all about well how do I put this nicely the man that is Daylan's father is not the sharpest knife in the drawer and has a mother that fights his battles for him which I guess makes him a child and not really a man. So this woman that is my son's grandmother writes my mother an email claiming that I have been condescending in all of my emails to her son. Sorry lady I have to say you are wrong I have just been straight forward which is the way you have to be with people who have selective hearing and reading. I send email correspondence to his father because I want to have proof that I am being fair and reasonable and now this lady is trying to call me out and make me a bad person because I won't let my 1year old go half way across the country to go visit people who he doesn't know and who don't even bother to pick up the phone and talk to him, and I am being unreasonable. I swear I think that these people just sit at their house and think of ways to make my life difficult. I am one hell of a mother and I wanted to be a mother and everything I do I do for my son. I swear the nerve of some people. So I wrote her a letter let me know what you all think of it....


Hello Kim,

I just want to start off by saying that you have a completely unreal picture of me. I have not been difficult I have been a mother and a good one at that, I don't feel in any way that i have to justify my decisions with you I am Daylan's parent, the one that is with him every single day, the one that wakes up in the middle of the night and the one that takes care of him when he is sick, he is my world and I believe that i know him better then anyone else and because of that I didn't feel like he was ready to be going to CT. If you can't understand that I am sorry. I am sorry that you feel as if I was being spiteful because I have not been, I don't have time or an empty house to sit around and think about how I can make someone elses life more difficult all I have time for is taking care of Daylan, going to school full time and working full time and building a wonderful life for me and my son, I leave no room for nonsense in my life sorry.
The reason I didn't reply to your email was because the issue at hand was between me and Robert and a third party was not required. I handle my own business because I am an adult and would think that Robert would be able to handle his so everything that I needed to say I said to him.
Now to address the issue you brought up to in the letter to my mother about Roberts check being intercepted. First off I work at the pay center so I don't know the story you heard but I have facts since I handle pay and pay issues. Robert had a travel claim for 1500 dollars did I recieve this NO I did not I received 820 leaving 680 if he didn't get the rest of that I don't know where it went or what other obligations he had that is not my business. The money that I recieved was for back child support. Let me explain it to so that you can understand. Robert sent money every month but he DID NOT send me the full amount of child support and the 820 was the difference in the amount he paid and the amount that was suppose to be paid. I didn't recieve anything that wasn't deserved for Daylan and everything that I did recieve I told the child support agency and I also emailed that to Robert stating that I told them.
So please don't make me out to be the bad person here. I don't sit at my house holding grudges there is to much other stuff on my plate and I don't need to be weighted down by untrue statements about me and my character. From the beginning I have been nothing but nice emailing you and your family pictures and videos, sending pictures out by mail and never did I have to do any of those things I did it because I want you guys to know Daylan and I want him to know you all. But the first time I disagree and don't let Daylan come up there and tell Robert that he needs to visit Daylan in Daylans own setting (its easier for an adult to visit than it is for a one year old) and you guys wanna get ugly about it that is uncalled for, I am a good person with a good heart I refuse to let you make me into being someone I am not.
All the time put forth in writing emails back and forth to me or my mother about how I am being this way or that way. No one ever stop to say let me put that energy in to calling and talking to Daylan so he can hear our voices, these are the things that I look at and it breaks my heart that Robert can find time to email me about stopping a child support case it took me a year to establish and talk to an attorney here and in California but has yet to pick up the phone and call and talk to his son just so Daylan can hear his voice ( I thought it was all about Daylan but its looking more like it is all about money on that end). So I suggest you all route your energy into something more productive.



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